First Lady Supertonic

How many of you out there have someone who is interfering in your life un-necessarily?

Is there someone sticking their unwelcome oar in your business?

Is there a way to tell these people to but out without being rude?

I have been talking to a very dear friend of mine who has such a person in her life, she is at a loss as to how to stop them giving unrequested advice.

My advice to her was simply to say thanks but it's none of your business.

Any ideas anyone?

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John&Linda

Invite them to a party and move house before they get there.
John

First Lady Supertonic

Yep, that should do it

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Janet

I agree, though it's sometimes very difficult to be as direct as that to someone who, in their own mind, is helping.

I've always found this sort of thing really difficult. I hate having to put my foot down, and don't think one should ever be put in such a situation. To my mind, anyone who just isn't aware that they're involving themselves to the point of meddling is being insensitive, and as such, deserves a "mind your own business" response ... but it's very difficult to do, especially without being thought rude.

The question is, if someone is that interfering and/or insensitive, should it bother me if they think I'm rude? The answer is No, but it's still not easy.

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Jennie

Perhaps they have to distance themselves a little. Sounds like the balance of their friendship is out of kilter.

I think your friend has been too nice and allowed their friend to bulldozer their way in.

Reminds me of this character:

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First Lady Supertonic

Yes you are right Janet, I never looked at it as meddling but of course it is!

Especially when you haven't gone to them for advice in the first place.

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First Lady Supertonic

Love it Jennie!

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Jennie

Thing is, I had a neighbour not dissimilar to the Harry Enfield character.

I thought I was being neighbourly and friendly when we first moved into the road. Little did I know she would be in my house morning, noon and night, telling me what she thought was right, how to bring up children etc. etc.

It got to the stage where I used to get home from school at 4.00 pm and she would still be there when my husband got home from work at 7. It wore me down, made me miserable and I couldn't find a nice way to get rid of her. I believe it was my fault as I didn't heed the warning signs. It will never happen again.

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Colleen

Well, I've been trying for almost 10 years not to make some effer''s business my business ........... but he won't sell up.

It's a little cafe and it's been laying dormant and has lots of potential.

I've wanted it for years.

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First Lady Supertonic

But you must have got rid of her in the end?

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